Reviving Your Goddess

Below are notes, thoughts, opinions, perceptions and ideas to live and revive your inner goddess.

The Goddess Circle

I heart all of my female friends and family members. Every one of them has inspired me greatly in my life and I can honestly say that they helped me make the being that I am now. As I grew up I watched my mother and grandmother taking turns in raising me in the midst of other responsibilities and life turmoil that they had.  I see my mother as an amazingly strong, independent woman. Seven years ago my parents took their own separate ways. I always was unable to comprehend how they were married to begin with since they were never in sync and completely had different point of views about life. My mother had been raising my siblings and I since then. Between working, raising us and supporting my grandmother who has been living with us from the day I was born my mother strengthened herself. Her strength and wisdom throughout these years are highly admirable and empowering to me.

My grandmother is an extraordinary woman.  She has dedicated her whole life to assist my parents in raising my siblings and I. My grandfather passed away in 1984 so my grandmother became a widow then. She helped my parents raise and take care of us everyday. She is very self-sacrificing in a sense that she puts all of our needs’ before hers.   From her I received a tremendous amount of unconditional love and compassion.

I can’t even begin to say how grateful I am to have a few amazing friends. My female (and male) friends (whom I choose to refer to as confidantes or soul sisters from now on) all have distinct qualities that I appreciate and admire greatly. From every one of them not only that I possess friendship but I also gain insights, knowledge and wisdom to empower each other and myself constantly.

My mother, my grandmother, my friends and my soul sisters are all powerful pillars in my life. They are goddesses to me because all of their female energies affect my being. I have manifested their kindness, compassion and love into myself in such a way that it assists me to love myself and others.  In addition to that, I have been enabled to give more to the world.

You might be wondering where I am getting at by writing this. You can say this is a statement on the importance of having a goddess circle -as I call it- in our lives.  We women have a solid foundation given by our mothers and grandmothers, sisters and aunts (within our kin). The other women in our lives besides our families (friends, teachers, mentors, doctors or counselors) are the pillars and building blocks that make up our support system. Altogether we have a perfect empowering network that surrounds us at all times.  It is also highly important to have regular gatherings with our goddess circle because these are the times where we women are able to strengthen our support system by learning and exchanging thoughts between one another.

In closings, I am encouraging everyone to locate your goddess circle and connect with it.  There are times in our lives when all we need is a support system that comes from feminine energies.  After all, it’s the feminine energy that helps us to “be” and it will constantly remind us that we have souls rather than the external, material world for our happiness and fulfillment.

“It’s About Me” is not bad

How many of you remember a particular moment during your childhood when your mother said,”Don’t be selfish. Think of others?” I sure do. As a matter of fact that statement stayed in my head for a long period of time after that. Many of you can relate to this I am sure. In some cultures, such as mine, people think that constantly yielding to others is a noble thing to do. To lose ourselves for the benefit of others and other things will bring good karma. Great! We’d love to have good karmas. Oh but wait a minute what about me, myself, ourselves? Then the ultimate question came up in my mind. Will I get good karmas for thinking about me as well?

As we go on living our daily lives we find ourselves caught up in different routines as required by our responsibilities and obligations. We have an important role in every aspect of our lives. We work to make a living, help our spouse, cook for our family, pick up our children from school, pay our bills, walk our dog to the park, go to church board meetings, go to the neighborhood watch weekly, give financial support to family members in need, etc. We excel in role-playing to others. We cater to everything and everyone. Everything ELSE and everyone ELSE is a priority.

Then the day comes when we wake up exhausted in the morning and think,”What about me? When is me time? Or Did I fall out of love from me?” Irish poet Oscar Wilde once said this, “To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance.” Perhaps it is strange to think that we should be in a life-long romance with ourselves but it is one of the keys of happiness in life. We need to nurture ourselves before we can successfully nurture others and other things in our lives. I am not writing any of this to dictate anyone however I humbly want this to be a reminder to you, me, and every one of us. A simple reminder that along with role-playing to others and things we need to think about ourselves. This life is about me and I as well as it is about others.

Putting ourselves and our needs as a priority can be challenging to some of us more than others. We may confuse it with being self-centered or egotistical; therefore, it is crucial that we can differentiate between them. Self-centeredness or egotism has a negative connotation in such that it may disbenefit others. First we need to express or declare ourselves, our wishes, desires, goals and needs to the universe. The next step is to act on them or put them into action. Then at last, acknowledge everything to be fulfilling to ourselves and we obtain happiness from it.

Just like everything else in life to think”It’s About Me” is a mind-conditioning exercise. I guess we can see it as a way we reward ourselves and give a pat on our shoulder for being us. It is a positive reinforcement that empowers ourselves to find the key to our own happiness. Only when we shine our own happiness we are able to have a joyful, fulfilling life. All of us desire to be happy in our lives. This great quote from his holiness Dalai Lama sums it all up for us. The purpose of our lives is to be happy. Figure out what it is about you that is important for you to declare and start from there. It is my wish and intention that we have ultimate happiness in our lives to keep moving forward.